Choosing Two Best Men: A Decision That Made Sense
When choosing the best man for my wedding, I realized I could not pick just one. Two of my closest friends had played equally important roles in my life and I did not want to choose between them. One lived on the East Coast, the other was local, and both had completely different personalities. Some people worried that having two best men might be chaotic, but it turned out to be one of my best decisions.
The Dynamic One Outgoing One Reserved
One of my best men was extremely outgoing He thrived in social settings had no problem making speeches and was always the life of the party. The other was more reserved thoughtful and always reliable. Together they balanced each other out. This mix of personalities made for a dynamic and well rounded experience leading up to the wedding day.
Splitting Responsibilities
One of the biggest concerns people have about having two best men is how to divide responsibilities. For me it worked naturally
- The East Coast Best Man handled things remotely helped coordinate travel plans for out of town guests and gave an incredible speech at the reception
- The Local Best Man was my go to for logistics making sure things ran smoothly on the wedding day and keeping me calm during the hectic moments
- A Close Friend Stepped In for the Bachelor Party since my local best man was not really into planning that kind of event
Instead of clashing they worked well together each handling tasks that fit their strengths.
How It Made the Wedding Better
Having two best men brought a unique energy to the wedding
- Two Speeches Two Perspectives Each best man gave a speech and they complemented each other perfectly. One was lighthearted and funny while the other was heartfelt and sentimental
- Double the Support On the wedding day I did not have to rely on just one person. Whether it was dealing with last minute details or calming nerves they were both there
- A Balanced Experience With one best man being outgoing and the other being more low key there was a natural balance to the celebrations from pre wedding events to the big day
Unexpected Benefits of Having Two Best Men
Having two best men not only made the day more special but it also helped with things I had not even considered before
- Less Pressure on Each Best Man Since they shared the role neither of them felt overwhelmed by all the responsibilities
- More Inclusion of Important People It felt right to honor both friendships instead of choosing one over the other
- Stronger Group Dynamic The groomsmen had two leaders to look up to which kept the energy positive and well coordinated
The Takeaway It Is About What Works for You
For anyone considering having two best men my advice is simple If it makes sense for your friendships go for it. The key is choosing people who will work together rather than compete for attention. By embracing their strengths and allowing them to contribute in ways that felt natural everything went smoothly.
A wedding is a once in a lifetime event and you should surround yourself with the people who mean the most to you. For me that meant having two best men and I would not have had it any other way.
